Richard & Linda Mose Meadows

Richard & Linda Mose Meadows
Pastor, Pastoral Counselor and Chaplain

Grief Notes

One of the feelings that comes with devastating losses is the ability to feel as though life is worth living and the loss of purpose in life.  So, what you are feeling is right on point.  “Desperate to live.”
Do I have any suggestions for you to survive? Yes, but they are not exact science. 

The most important factors to living life is to, struggle to live.  You can live and you can live life abundantly.  It may not seem like it at first, but given enough time things begin to return to a NEW normal.  Normal in a regular sense no, but normal is now brand new because it is life without those who you miss most.  The smiles, the words, the faces, the love and care is now gone and the question is always, what do you do now?  You must search deep inside of yourself to find that place that brings you purpose and a new sense of joy.  Is it in the lives of others or is it in you?  It will be a combination.  Look around you in your community, family and other places where you gather to find the right combination.  This will be a struggle, but you will find strength in this struggle.  Your life is worth living, just as the others you miss so very much lives were and still are worth living inside of you.

Go with your memories, they are many and many of them are wonderful.  Honor your loved ones lives by remembering them in a healthy way.  On their birthdays, remember.  On their anniversaries, remember.  Even on the day they left you, remember that day and honor them.  A flower, a dinner, a poem or any other way you can think of, remember them.

These are a few thoughts that come to my mind; hopefully something will well up inside of you and come forward in its own way.  Finally look around and notice how many people truly love you.  If you have no one, go find a loving community such as a church family, or club and tell them what you need to live again.  
Courtney Dion Meadows Born 5/9/1983 - Heaven Date 5/2/2005 "My Friend Lives" I desired Peace in the Process and I arrived at Justice. I pray for his shooter...May God give him peace.

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